Our children today live in a time when honesty is a rare thing. Basically, children are more honest than adults. They will say according to what they see and feel. It is a wrong view when we say that it is necessary to teach children about honesty. It is precisely the adult who should learn from the honesty of children. I am convinced that the corruptors who are now good at lying and deceiving the people, in their childhood are so innocent and honest.
In the development process, a child intersects with the family environment, school, and community. Three types of environment are very influential for the development of children, including in habits and attitudes. Children grow and thrive through the process of imitating what they see. If they grow smarter but become increasingly dishonest, this is an indication that too much of the reality of dishonesty they see from their environment.
Adults often teach children little things that actually teach them to lie. Children often see behavior about dishonest behavior around us. Finally they learn that dishonesty is allowed. Everyday, whether directly or indirectly, verbally or non-verbally, children absorb messages of dishonesty from the surrounding environment or roles exemplified by the media such as TV shows. The more often they catch the messages of dishonesty, over time it will be imprinted in his mind so that then manifested in behavior. At a more severe stage, the child will become accustomed to being dishonest.
The obligation to educate, however, is an adult's duty. How to educate and instill honesty value in children first done is to avoid negative responses to the honesty of children. Whether it's laughing at them or scolding them. The honesty of a child often looks ridiculous and funny, but in truth we have to learn from it. Children's honesty sometimes seems frontal and does not know the situation and conditions, because they do not understand about the value and ethics of how to express/rate something they see and feel.
When there is a child who tells you mistakes honestly, our job is to respond positively by giving an appreciation for the honesty, rather than punishing the wrong they have done. Another thing that is not less important is to prevent children from examples of dishonest acts, whether we do it ourselves, others, or from electronic media. The child's developmental phase, which is still at the mimic stage, will be easily contaminated with negative externals.
If we find signs of dishonesty our child is doing or saying a lie, you should investigate it thoroughly. We must know clearly, whether he said the truth or lie. Our child must hold the principle of life with a belief that lying is like a rotten flesh that either way how to hide it, whenever the time will surely be revealed, so with that belief they will not try to commit a lie in any form.
Parents have a central role in instilling honest character in children. Honesty between parents and children can only be built with warm and intimate emotional fabric. Therefore, efforts to instill honesty in children can not be done without a good relationship between them.
Educating children about the value of honesty is one part of children's education. When we educate children on close relationships and intimacy, they will feel safe, comfortable, and more easily absorb the good values we instill in them, such as empathy, tolerance, sympathy, including the value of this honesty.
Honesty is a very valuable investment, because with honesty will provide a lot of benefits in our lives in the future. Honesty will create good communication between parents and children and will create a sense of trust. The child is a person who is still clean and sensitive to the stimuli coming from the outside environment. Thus, in childhood it is ideal for parents to instill honesty values to their children.
Honesty is always associated with trust. In any relationship, honesty and trust can not be separated. Honesty can create trust, and trust is usually born out of honesty. Therefore, parents should instill honesty values in children early to create harmonious family relationships and make children grow up to be responsible people.